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We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
- National Competition on Worries! - National Competition on Worries!
Let me introduce you to our today's guests.
- Lee Hwi Jae! - Welcome!
- Hello. - Hong Kyung Min!
(Entertainer Hong Kyung Min)
Yoo A and Ji Ho of Oh My Girl!
(Yoo A and Ji Ho of Oh My Girl)
Yoo Hwe Seung of N.Flying!
(Yoo Hwe Seung of N.Flying)
- Hwi Jae... - It's his first time on this show.
- That's right. - Dong Yeob and Yeong Ja...
- went to the same college as me. - Yes.
- Tae Gyun and I enrolled... - We enrolled in the same year.
- So I feel very comfortable. - Of course.
- Good. - Think that you're on a group trip.
I'd be in trouble if this were a group trip.
- Why? - It's because of Dong Yeob.
He would make me drink too much.
- Right. - He always does that.
I'm curious about how Seo Eon and Seo Jun are doing.
- Me too. - We used to see them every week.
- I wonder how they're doing. - They're doing very well.
They're doing very well and still don't listen to me.
- They're still playful. - I see.
(We miss them.)
Actually, we started recording the show at 1pm, right?
I told them I should be here by 11am.
He left home early.
(What did you just say?)
- He left home early. - I left early.
No wonder why he was wandering around here.
That was Hwi Jae. I was right.
I fully understand Hwi Jae. However, sons...
How do you understand me? You never spent time with your son.
What are you talking about?
- I heard everything. - That's not true.
- Tell us what you heard. - One day,
he realized he should spend more time with his kid.
He decided to play with his son for the day. The game they played...
They lied down on the floor...
(What does Dong Yeob do with his child?)
And see if who keeps his eyes closed longer.
(He's the king of petty tricks.)
- Is that true? - Or staying quiet longer.
I thought, "Dong Yeob is unbelievable."
He has two sons, but Kyung Min has a daughter.
- Raising a daughter is different. - He dotes on his daughter.
I don't play games where we should keep our eyes closed.
But I recommend playing doctor and patient.
- How? - What's that?
"Let's play doctor and patient. I'm the patient."
"Please examine me."
(Then what happens?)
- Then I lie down. - You just get examined.
As I rest, I go,
"I am still in pain. Please do it again."
"You are fine. Get up."
(The daughter's counterattack)
(When did my daughter grow up so much?)
Yoo Hwe Seung of N.Flying, your new song came out.
- That must be why he is here. - Are you here to promote the song?
- Yes. - Really?
- He is honest. - He is honest.
- Music, please. - "How R U Today"!
("How R U Today" by N.Flying)
(Have you been well?)
(I want to go back to you)
(I want to go back to the time we loved each other)
For two weeks in a row,
we have been giving you updates on how the involved parties...
of a past worry have been doing.
If he is in a bad mood...
(Her husband broke things in a drunken state 365 days a year.)
(He promised to quit drinking.)
(1st week)
(He succeeded to stay sober in 23 years.)
(He succeeded to stay sober for the 2nd week.)
This is the third week.
He is still staying sober.
- That's incredible. - He didn't drink in three weeks.
Please continue to stay sober...
so that your three weeks of effort won't go to waste.
We have three worries today.
Show us the keywords.
("Deep Love", "What Are You Looking At?")
"Deep Love", "What Are You Looking At?"
and "Terrible Nightmare".
This is "Deep Love".
Hello.
I am afraid to go home these days.
"My goodness, my baby is here."
"Sit next to me. My baby, let me give you a kiss."
"Let me give you a kiss on your cheek."
"Let me give you a kiss on your lips."
"Give me a hug."
The person who treats me like a baby...
is my dad.
Although I am in 11th grade, he doesn't let me be.
"My baby, let me look at your belly."
"Let me blow on your belly."
(He blows on her belly.)
- She is in 11th grade, right? - She is in 11th grade.
I do that to my daughter these days.
He does that when his daughter is in 11th grade?
"Look at my baby's buttocks."
"They are so cute." Then he kneads them.
He touches me even though I have grown up.
I am sick and tired of it.
One time,
this happened in front of the school gate.
"My daughter, have fun at school."
"Hold on,"
"you need to give me a kiss."
- In front of the school gate? - Then a teacher appeared.
"Who in the world are you?"
My dad ended up getting dragged to the principal's office.
- Goodness. - "Dad, you need to tone it down."
"Why can't I touch my own child? Your body is mine."
I can't live like this.
My dad is too physically affectionate.
Please stop him.
(Please stop him.)
He must be a dad...
who loves his child more than anyone in the world.
However, his physical affection is out of control.
You probably don't understand...
because you have sons.
Blowing on a child's belly is something...
I stopped doing two years ago.
- That's right. - I stopped when my sons were four.
Since they are boys, they do this when I go too far.
(They straighten their faces.)
They do that.
- Are you serious? - I am serious.
(They can't believe these cute children would do that.)
Blowing air on the belly of a girl who is in 11th grade is too much.
Imagine that Seo Eon and Seo Jun are in 11th grade...
with pimples and abdominal hair.
It's the same as blowing air on their bellies.
They would hate it.
Why would you put abdominal hair on my boys?
- It was only an example. - Gosh,
how annoying!
Ji Ho and Yoo A, as daughters,
what is your first thought?
I still kiss my dad on his lips.
(Clapping)
He clapped by himself.
The man who is probably the dad clapped.
(I still kiss my dad on his lips.)
(Clapping)
I think physical affection is a way to feel my dad's love for me...
and express my love for him.
How about you, Hwe Seung?
I am the complete opposite.
In my family, my dad and I...
pass by each other.
(They pass by each other.)
Do you pass by each other?
Do you do this when you see him at home?
We don't touch each other.
My son is in second grade.
Recently, he refused to eat something during a meal.
"I am a robot. I only eat when you press the button."
I poked him and said, "Eat this."
He said, "Okay." It was so funny that I went,
"Is that a button?"
Then I poked his penis. He suddenly went,
"Are you a pervert?"
(He is a natural-born comedian.)
- Really? - Yes.
He is a natural-born comedian.
I doubled over during a meal because it was so funny.
He didn't like it. He didn't want me to do it.
He didn't like it.
He conveyed his message in a roundabout way...
through the voice of a robot.
Please come on out.
(Who is worried about an overly tactile dad?)
Welcome.
(Choi Soo Bin)
You sent us a worry...
because of your dad's physical affection.
- Yes. - How bad is it?
Whenever our eyes meet,
he kisses me.
- Whenever your eyes meet? - Yes.
When he licks my face,
I smell like spit.
I hate it.
Also...
It's worse...
- than what we heard. - I know.
Of course you smell like spit!
Whenever I watch TV or a movie...
for hours,
he hugs me.
He touches my stomach...
and blows air on it.
He touches my hips when I am doing the dishes.
I hate it.
Does he put his arm around your shoulders?
Does he actually hug you?
- He does this. - Really?
He does this.
That's what he does, right?
- Yes. - That's what he does.
Even though Yoo A is 24 years old,
she said she still kisses her dad on the lips.
Even though I love my dad,
I would have stopped him...
had he licked my face.
(Licking face is too much.)
Does he do that in front of the others?
He holds my hand in front of the others.
When his friends come over, he always calls me over...
and kisses me.
He brags about it.
When I am playing with my friends, he comes into my room...
and kisses me and hugs me.
He shows physical affection.
I was so embarrassed in front of my friends.
It's understandable.
I was worried that my friends would get strange ideas.
Sometimes, people give me and my dad a strange look.
(Do people give them a strange look?)
Why do they do that?
My dad made me at the age of 21.
He is young.
Did he make you or have you at the age of 21?
He had me.
That means he made you at the age of 20.
There is no need to be so specific.
We are 20 years apart.
My dad looks much younger than his peers.
- That's why... - You are right.
Your dad looks young.
People would believe you if you say he is your older brother.
When we go shopping or go out to eat,
he holds my hand.
The staff asks if I am his girlfriend.
I hate it so much...
that I loudly call him, "Dad".
He walks me to and from school quite often.
He always kisses me before I go.
A teacher saw that...
and asked my dad, "Who in the world are you?"
Even after he said he is my dad, the teacher misunderstood...
and dragged him to the principal's office.
He had to turn in his ID card and Family Relation Certificate.
The teacher didn't believe him.
- Family Relation Certificate? - Yes.
I asked him to stop once,
but he said that his child's body is his.
I asked him to stop with seriousness.
He said, "All right. Go." He sulked.
- He sulked. - Yes.
- He didn't talk for a day. - "I raised you with love."
Are you the only child?
I have siblings who are 14 and 10 years old.
- Brothers? - Sisters.
Sisters?
- Are there three daughters? - Yes.
Is he particular with you...
when there are three daughters?
- No. - He acts the same to everyone.
He acts the same to my sisters as well.
It's not just your worry.
- No. - It's the daughters' worry.
When I was little, I didn't mind the physical affection.
Now, I don't like it.
My 14-year-old sister is going through puberty.
She is under a lot of stress.
Your 14-year-old sister.
I am worried.
(She is worried about her pubescent sister.)
Is he a perfect dad save for the physical affection?
Sure.
Her answer is unclear.
(Her answer is unclear.)
We will soon reveal Soo Bin's dad.
We can see him from here. Compared to other dads,
- he looks too young. - That's right.
- He has a small face, too. - Compared to her peers,
- Soo Bin is tall. - That's right.
That could be the reason why people misunderstand.
People won't see them as a dad and a daughter.
Let's talk to Soo Bin's dad. Hello.
Hello.
(Who is the overly tactile dad?)
He looks so young.
- He looks way too young. - Please stand up.
- He is stylish. - He has a fit body.
- He must work out a lot. - He must work out a lot.
Do you understand your daughter's worry?
When the production crew called me to ask...
if I would be willing to visit the show,
I wondered if Soo Bin is bored with life.
- You wondered that. - Yes.
You don't think this is a worry.
To be honest, I am the one who has a worry.
She used to be clingier with me.
She used to be clingier with you?
That word isn't used often between a dad and a daughter.
She used to be clingier.
- Was Soo Bin more affectionate? - Yes.
At some point, she started...
to keep distance from me, but now she frowns.
- So your daughter changed. - Right.
Don't you think she's avoiding it...
because it's too much for a girl of her age?
(Don't you think it's too much?)
She's my girl though.
I got married early,
so my wife gave birth to her when I was serving the army.
- I see. - I was in special forces.
In a year, I was in the mountains half the time.
I wanted to be with her, but I couldn't.
- So you gave her all your love... - Yes, when I met her.
- So you feel more attached to her. - Right. I think that's what it is.
What do you say?
- He says he's been too attached... - He gave his love all at once.
- because of what happened. - I think...
that's in the past. Now is different.
I think he doesn't need to worry about it now.
(She's very cold-hearted.)
- He's shocked. - She doesn't get...
why he's still worried about it.
You don't need to worry about it.
What do you think about the other thing he said?
- You used to love him more. - You used to be more attached.
But you changed.
Maybe when I was younger. But not now.
Not now.
- Not now. - Not now.
Have you put on a straight face and said this? "No, Dad."
"Please don't do this."
I tried telling him not to do it, but he got sulky.
- He got sulky. - He got sulky.
He doesn't cry though, does he?
I can understand everything else, but licking her face...
with your tongue is...
- That's... - That's a little...
Isn't that bad?
Is it justified because she's your girl?
I was just playing with her.
Actually, because of my job, I don't have time to see them a lot.
When I was changing their diapers and got poop on my hands,
I didn't think of it as dirty. I licked them all.
(No way.)
I licked them all.
Why would you eat that?
- He ate poop? - It's...
the continuation of that.
You used to be in special forces,
- Didn't you get... - Why would you eat that?
trained to survive in mountains?
- Didn't you get trained for that? - I did.
Maybe it's similar to that.
But how can you eat someone's poop?
- No, it's... - Even if it's your child's,
why would you eat poop? If it's the poop he wants,
- just give him your poop. - I didn't eat a lot.
(That is a very wise solution.)
- Just give him your poop. - I didn't eat a lot.
Why...
(What a solution!)
- In the past, - It's bad.
people used to look at baby's poop and sometimes even taste it.
But you can't use that to justify your action.
- It doesn't make sense. - It doesn't.
How can you lick it because it got on your hand?
It wasn't just poop.
I used to suck out mucus from her nose too.
- I did that too. - Right. I...
- I did that too. - We all did.
He's not talking about using the tool.
- I did it with my mouth. - He did it with his mouth.
Did you eat it too?
- I didn't eat it. - Right.
Why won't you eat that when you eat poop?
Well...
We want to ask you this.
- You brought them up with love. - He dearly loves them.
Do your daughters still look like babies in your eyes?
She looks just like when she was a one-year-old.
- When she was one-year-old? - She looked like this?
(I am getting humiliated.)
When she was a one-year-old?
Then...
(Now and when she was a year old)
- I wonder what she grabbed. - People must've been shocked.
- What did she grab? - When old ladies...
reunite after tens of years,
they say to each other that they haven't changed. It's like that.
My parents say I look just like when I was one year old.
Does your parents...
touch you and adore you?
They are from Gyeongsang Province, so they don't do that.
- Your parents don't do that? - My parents don't do that.
Why do you do that then?
When I was little, I was traumatized by lack of affection.
I was deprived of it. So when I was little, I decided...
that I will be very affectionate when I have my own children.
I used to think like that.
You wanted to show affection to your children,
and you showed enough affection to them.
Now your daughter says she doesn't like it, so you should stop.
You should stop. Don't you agree?
It seems like you are only chasing your own satisfaction.
That's not it.
I know that I have to reduce it step by step.
(When would that be?)
Things will be different when she gets married.
(He will change when she's about to get married.)
- When she gets married? - When she gets married?
- She doesn't like it now. - Right.
The daughter you dearly love hates it.
Shouldn't you respect her opinion?
(He tears up.)
You do it even in front of other people.
I heard you even went to the principal's office for it.
I saw her off in this exact outfit.
I wanted people to know that she's got a young dad.
After hugging and kissing her, I said, "Good bye."
I guess he was a teacher. He was pointing fingers at me...
and said, "What are you?" I lost my temper...
and said, "Who are you then?"
You must know that other people might...
misunderstand your fatherly love.
You must know it.
Even after that incident, he hasn't changed.
Did you not realize it that day?
- Even before then... - Did you know about it?
Even after going through such incidents several times,
you still do it because when you tell people that you're her dad,
people get surprised and say you are such a young...
and handsome dad. I think you do it...
- to hear those compliments. - Exactly.
I cannot help but suspect it.
- That's the reason, isn't it? - It's part of the reason.
I am certain that that's why he does it.
That's not the only reason why I do it.
Being touchy wasn't the problem after all.
All fathers love his children.
But when your daughter reaches a certain age,
you set her free. That's how most people think.
- Right. - I heard this many times.
People said a child had a child.
People said I wouldn't know how precious a child is.
They said our marriage wasn't going to last.
Those prejudices made me get obsessed.
I wanted to prove everyone wrong.
So what's important to you is what other people think of you.
Your daughter should be the priority.
But you are putting yourself first.
Right.
You never considered what it would be like for your daughter.
You never thought about how she might look to other people.
Honestly, I thought things will get better as time passes.
When do you think this will pass?
- When she turns 60? - When she's 22 to 23?
- When she's 22 to 23? - What...
would you do if she brings a boyfriend before then?
She can have a boyfriend, but I need to first interview him.
- No way. - Interview him?
(Is he Jo Young Gu?)
- Interview him? - Interview him?
It seems like...
he still operates like a soldier...
- in every aspect of his life. - Some people are like that.
I don't know how you would take this.
You are doing everything you can...
to grow apart from your daughter, whom you love so dearly.
- He's causing it. - Even if she gets a boyfriend,
if he acts like that,
she would never talk to him about it.
- She wouldn't talk about it. - She won't be able to talk to him.
- Right? - She can't.
It seems like he's shocked.
We will ask what it's like for her little sisters.
Hello.
They are so beautiful.
Please introduce yourself.
- Speak to the mic. - Introduce yourself.
Will you stop touching her?
You see your sister struggling with it.
As her little sister, what did you think about it?
It's not me, so...
Is it okay as long as it's not you?
- Is it okay then? - Is your father...
not as affectionate to you as he is to your sister?
No, he treats us all the same.
He treats you the same.
What is the thing he does you don't like?
Well...
It's okay. You can tell us.
- It's okay. - Touching my hips.
- She's going through puberty. - Dads love that though.
I love touching Seo Jun's hips before he goes to bed.
They look so cute.
- Of course. - Of course they are cute.
Why do you not like him touching you?
I don't want anyone to touch my hips.
(That's a very clear answer.)
At what age did you realize that?
When I turned 12.
- That's 2 years ago. - 2 years ago.
That's a long time ago.
How do you feel when he touches your hips?
It doesn't feel very nice, and I want him to stop it.
Really? I am very interested in hearing her opinion.
- My daughter is 12. - Oh, right.
Is tapping your hips okay?
It's okay to do it with the back of my hands, right?
- Did you get her permission? - Yes.
Let's talk to the youngest.
- Hello. - It'll be funny if she hates it.
- Hello. - Hello.
- Hello. - She's so cute.
How old are you, and what is your name?
I am 10 years old, and my name is Choi Soo Ri.
- Choi Soo Ri. - Choi Soo Ri.
Your sisters are complaining about your father.
What do you think about it?
I think they are right.
(She's very sure of herself.)
Do you not like your dad touching your hips too?
- I don't. - Oh, dear.
- Why don't you like it? - Why is that?
Why do you not like your dad touching your hips?
- He does it because he loves you. - It feels bad.
- Even the youngest hates it. - She hates it.
She says she doesn't like you touching her hips.
It's my first time hearing it.
(It's his first time hearing it.)
He's in trouble.
- I feel bad for him. - He's going to be hurt.
What else do you not like?
He doesn't touch me in this case.
But he comes in when I'm taking a bath.
He says he's going to wash me. He opens the door and comes in.
- Without asking your permission? - To wash you up?
Does your dad wash you?
- What? - Does your dad wash you?
- He doesn't, does he? - Yes.
- He does. - He does?
- Still? - Because you can't reach?
Still?
He... Yes.
Have you ever thought about stopping after elementary school?
Did you think of when to stop?
It's different when I wash them and when they wash by themselves.
Are you saying it's not good enough?
When I wash them, their hair shines like a shampoo commercial,
but when they wash by themselves, it's greasy.
When I ask them, they did wash up.
It looks like they did, but...
- You're not satisfied. - You can't help it.
I always wipe my son...
after he excretes.
He started wiping himself after he entered elementary school.
Then one moment,
he said, "Dad. I can do it on my own."
I felt so proud, so I checked.
There was this much poop.
(It wasn't clean when he checked.)
I understand what it's like as a parent.
When are you going to stop? Your daughter's in seventh grade.
You need to take it seriously, sir.
- Right. - Because your daughters...
- will go through physical changes. - Yes.
Some girls go through it in the third grade.
When you go through the changes, you don't want to show it to anyone.
You become sensitive.
When they're being washed...
Your daughters are saying "being washed".
That means they don't like it.
(He needs to consider it.)
If you don't like it,
have you tried to tell your mom about it?
When I tell Mom,
I feel like she won't take it seriously.
Does he cuddle with Mom a lot?
He jokes around.
- In what way? - In what way?
(Is it okay to say it?)
Does he tap her shoulder or poke her?
Is it like touching her belly and poking her?
- No? - When she washes the dishes,
he pulls up her pants...
up to her waist.
You mean this?
Like wedge?
(Childish)
That's what I used to do in elementary school.
Wedge?
It's a pretty harmonious family in general.
It's like a sitcom.
(A harmonious family)
Who do you agree to, ma'am?
Your daughter says it's a worry.
My children are not young anymore.
I understand they're going through puberty and feel sensitive.
He likes to cuddle. It's a way he shows his love.
I never thought it's so bad.
- You're mutual. - Yes.
Were you aware of how serious...
your oldest daughter takes it?
No.
You just like the peaceful vibe in the family.
It's not so peaceful, but yes.
- How is it? - What?
The touching between you and your husband.
- Do you like it? - I never liked it.
- Really? - Yes.
He doesn't bother me.
It's...
good in some sense.
- It's sad sometimes. - It's sad.
He does that.
Sir. Why won't you touch your wife?
We're young.
But we've been married for 18 years now.
We're like middle-aged couple.
- Because you got married early? - Yes.
We're like a brother and sister.
- It's loyal now. - Brother and sister?
They only have loyalty left.
Since my children are growing up,
I believe I should love my children more.
(It's just too much.)
The husband's friend is here.
- Are you married? - Yes. It's been 15 years.
I have 2 sons, one in grade 8 and one in grade 4.
I also have a daughter in second grade.
- Yes. - She must be very cute.
- You've heard your friend's story. - Yes.
- Do you understand him? - No.
I don't understand him.
I actually don't understand him.
I think he called me for help,
but he made a mistake.
I told him when we got here...
that he could become a piece of garbage today.
He could become a piece of garbage today.
(Stab in the back)
He said it's fine.
When was the time...
you couldn't understand him the most?
His children are all grown up now. They're almost like adults.
He took a photo of them kissing like a couple.
He posted it on his social media.
- A photo of them kissing? - Yes.
(Did I go too far?)
You also have a daughter.
How do you express your affection?
My daughter hates it when I cuddle.
Schools nowadays teach them.
"What do you do when someone touch you or kiss you?"
"No. Don't. Help."
Schools teach them to say it now.
When I got home, my wife said...
"What are you going to do if Dad kisses you?"
She said it's dirty and started crying.
(Dad is worse than a stranger.)
You must've been disappointed.
(I should've done that earlier.)
Was there a reason that made him...
love his children and express his love the way he does?
He was in the army for a long time.
He was barely home because of training.
He's a model, so he was overseas...
for about two years.
While he was taking a break, he got into an accident,
and the lower half of his body was paralyzed.
He was in hospital for about two years.
That's a long time in hospital.
So he became more attached to them.
- Because of that? - Yes.
You must've been worried...
that you could never walk again.
Yes.
Yeong Ja was skinnier than me.
- What? - I lost about 40kg.
- He gained so much weight. - Yes.
I left the hospital because...
I gave up.
I was fat, lethargic, couldn't walk.
She had to take care of me,
at the same time she took care of the children.
I couldn't just lie there.
So I started moving.
My affection for them became an obsession I guess.
Are you okay now?
I look healthier than average people on the outside.
- I know. - Totally.
But I go to every department in hospital.
Like a general hospital.
There are some parts that don't feel anything.
I had spinal cord leakage.
- Goodness. - Yes.
If I was single, I would've thought about something bad,
- Right. - or I'd be still in bed.
I'm sure your daughters understand...
how much you love them...
because they watched everything.
But getting physical is something different.
How do you want your dad to change?
I'm glad he's better now.
But getting physical isn't the only way to show his love.
- There are other ways. - Yes.
He can always show his love in other ways. Of course.
The second daughter.
What do you want from your dad?
(Say something nice.)
I want him to express his love in words.
- Only in words. - Does your dad...
get mad at you or anything?
He never gets upset even if you misbehave?
I do get scolded.
What do you mean?
- Attention? - Military way?
Does he swear?
He wouldn't.
Why don't you say it, sir?
Your children are scared of you.
Does your dad swear when he is upset?
Yes. Kind of.
(Vulgar words)
- Such curses? - In front of his daughters?
Why do you do that?
I admit...
I was wrong in terms of language.
Never.
But when I teach them a lesson,
I make sure of it.
I wreck them short and intensely.
"Wreck".
I wreck them short and intensely.
(Wreck in the first place)
- It's the military style. - That's the way...
he treated new people in the army.
He still has that habit.
If that's what he thinks,
how about you, ma'am?
He trains me too.
He was in the army for a long time.
He acts like a soldier at home too.
That's why my children keep looking at him.
Tell us about the way he speaks.
When I told him we're going to be on Hello,
the first thing he said was that I'm going to look fat...
for TV.
- You're still skinnier than me. - He told me to lose 5kg in 5 days.
- Lose 5kg in 5 days? - Yes.
- He said it was possible. - That's hard.
He said we were on special training.
"You have 5 days left. 5kg."
"Get all your gears."
You know the level of average people working out?
- Yes. - It's nothing like that.
Then?
I run around the neighborhood 10 times.
I walk up the stairs 10 times.
- It's tough. - Like special forces.
Even the thought of it makes me faint.
The way he used to speak to his juniors.
That's what it's like in the house.
We must obey.
(We all must obey.)
What happens if you don't?
He gets upset. He gets mad.
He gets mad short and fiercely, but very scary.
- It's usually him upset alone... - It's nothing like that.
He also gets furious. I get scared.
I think...
when he gets upset...
(Furious)
Then...
When he's happy, he hugs me.
- He doesn't care about how we feel. - Exactly.
He only cares about his own feelings.
- That's actually... - I know.
- what our fathers' generation did. - Yes.
So they can't say they don't like the way he shows his love.
No.
I reflect on myself.
I think I fixed about 80 percent of it.
(They clench their teeth.)
What if your father doesn't...
change at all?
Then I will probably leave home when I become 19.
(Then I will leave home.)
How do you feel to hear that?
I'm shocked.
But...
if she works and makes her own money,
and if she can afford to pay the rent, she can move out.
- Really? - Why have you gone sulky again?
- He's gone sulky. - Don't get sulky.
Tell him in detail what's okay...
and what's not okay. Tell him clearly.
I will be very generous. Hugging a little...
and holding hands at home is okay. But he shouldn't...
touch me or yell at me in public.
How about you, Soo Young?
I want him to stop touching my hips.
(He's banned from touching her hips.)
How do you feel after hearing what your daughters had to say?
I need to become a more mature parent.
How? Be more precise.
I will still hug them and kiss them.
But I won't touch their hips.
You shouldn't kiss your eldest daughter.
Right. I will...
You can't touch her hips either.
- Right. - Okay.
You can't think that their body is your body.
Even to a baby, you ask whether he wants ordinary milk,
strawberry milk, or chocolate milk. That grows the child's ego.
But that's not what you do.
"They are my daughters. So I can touch them however I want."
- Hwe Seung, you will vote first. - I think it's a worry.
I think it's a worry.
I also think it's a worry.
He's very similar to my father.
He didn't touch me much. But he was very hot-tempered.
When we had one telephone at home, if my sisters used it...
and he couldn't reach us,
he would destroy the phone.
But you live in 2018.
So you need to have a better relationship with your children.
He's constantly trying to improve.
- Are you not voting for him? - So I won't vote for him.
- You have hopes for him. - Yes.
If you sympathize with her,
please press the button.
(Send us your worries.)
5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Please say something nice to your daughters.
Tell them how much you love them.
I would give up my life for you girls.
(He loves his daughters as much as his own life.)
That's it.
Let's see how many votes she got. Please reveal the result.
- "Deep Love". - Let's check the last digit.
I hope he won't see the number and get hurt again.
Is it over 100?
- My goodness. - It's over 100.
Out of 200...
- 162. - 162.
(She got 162 votes.)
It's titled "Terrible Nightmare".
Hello.
I am a housewife in her 30s who's going through a nightmare.
I have a daughter who is 15 years old.
"I'm going to school."
(Ringing)
"Ma'am, your daughter is gone."
"We found your daughter,"
"but she got caught while smoking."
She said she was going to school. I wonder what she's up to.
"Darling, you're late. Won't you hurry to school?"
"I didn't get to draw my eyebrows and apply the lip tint."
"I won't go to school. I can't."
She skips school when she doesn't have time to put on makeup...
or when she has a stomachache.
She skips school so often.
Right now, she hasn't gone to school for 10 days.
How did it go so wrong?
Please stop my daughter.
(She asks them to help her with her daughter.)
She sounds very worried.
Let's bring her in.
(Who's the mother worried about her changed daughter?)
(Kim Hye Joo)
You said she used to...
get perfect scores and a lot of awards.
Did she suddenly change when she entered middle school?
In elementary school, she did well in tests.
- And she won many awards. - She won many awards.
She received a lot of awards.
But when she entered middle school, she suddenly changed.
(She suddenly changed.)
When someone suddenly changes,
- there's always a cause. - Right. Perhaps a friend.
Perhaps she decided it wasn't her way.
When she entered middle school, she loved hanging out with friends.
That's when she started wearing more makeup.
- She started wearing more makeup. - Yes. And she came home later.
- She came home later. - But I thought she'd come around,
so I let her be. Then one day, she came home,
and she smelt like cigarette.
It called for action, so I confiscated her cell phone...
and checked her phone.
On social media, she was talking to her friends about...
alcohol, cigarette, and boyfriend.
She even got caught in school while smoking.
- Her teacher called me. - You must've been surprised.
And the teacher said he would watch her.
- He said he'd take care of it. - Yes.
But since then, she's been refusing to go to school.
(It's getting worse and worse.)
Why does she not go to school?
Her friends are there.
So she could just go and not study.
One time, she didn't go to school because she didn't wear makeup.
(She refused to go to school because she's not wearing makeup.)
- Because of makeup? - Yes.
I am trying to understand her because she's in her awkward age.
When I tell her not to smoke cigarette,
she says, "I've been smoking for a long time. How can I just quit?"
That's what she says.
Does she not go to school at all now?
She's been not going to school for 10 days.
If you exceed 60 days, you get flunked.
- You get flunked after 60 days. - Yes.
Her teacher told me that.
- Is she in 8th grade now? - Yes, she's in 8th grade.
That's the worst age.
- 8th Grade Syndrome. - That's the peak.
- Why is it the peak? - Why 8th grade?
You're going through puberty, and you develop...
interest in your appearance.
My daughter is in 5th grade. Recently, she said we shouldn't...
meddle with her business, and my wife really scolded her harshly.
My wife felt sorry about it,
so the next day, we went out to have barbecue.
She kept giving our daughter meat.
She cut the barbecued meat and gave it to her. Being in the middle,
I felt sorry for her. "You always worry about your children. Eat."
"You only worry about your children."
I kept saying that to let her know how much her mom loves her.
When I said that three times, my daughter said,
"I will be nice to her. You can stop it now."
You pressured her.
Let's meet her daughter. Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
Why did you come here?
- I want to talk to Mom. - Right.
And I want to be freer.
- What? - You want to be freer.
She came to negotiate with her mother.
You heard everything. What do you think about it?
I can't understand her.
I don't want to go to school, but she keeps forcing me to go.
So...
You are a student. Shouldn't you go to school?
That's your position.
There are rules you have to follow as a student.
You can't grow your hair long.
You can't wear makeup. You can't shorten your skirt.
I hate those so much.
Do you have friends who don't go to school either?
No. They go to school, but they don't attend class.
What?
- They just go to school. - They leave after the check.
- Yes. - They hang out in the area.
Doesn't your teacher make you come in if you leave?
The teacher can't find us.
- They hide. - You secretly sneak out.
In their school, they move...
to a different classroom for every subject.
So they disappear whenever they move.
- Like college. - Yes, like college.
- They move classrooms. - That's convenient then.
Before going to middle school,
you used to attend school well and study hard.
You used to have fun.
At the time, classes were easy and short.
But now, the classes are long. And the teachers are tough.
How long were the classes in elementary school?
- 40 minutes? - 5 periods?
You must've finished school around 1pm.
- How about now? - We have seven periods.
And lessons became harder.
That's only two more periods. Is it that hard to handle?
That's two hours.
- She hates it. - That's too much.
What's up with not going to school because of makeup?
- What happened? - You didn't have time for it?
I get up at 8am every morning.
I am supposed to get to school by 8:30am.
When I take shower and get ready, I am already late.
Then I start putting on makeup. I make double eyelids.
(She makes double eyelids?)
I use the liquid glue.
So it takes a long time.
I've never gone to school...
without the double eyelids.
So I was too embarrassed to go to school.
Your close friends must've seen you without the double eyelids.
Most people haven't seen it.
So people are not supposed to see you without makeup.
(I never go outside without makeup.)
- I am worried for her. - Right.
- I am worried about her smoking. - Right.
How did you start smoking?
All my friends were smoking, so out of curiosity,
I decided to try it too.
I almost quit it now.
I don't understand why youths can't smoke.
(Why can't youths smoke?)
(Oh, my gosh.)
It's the law.
Youths are prohibited by law from buying cigarette.
- That's the law. - It's the law.
- But even without the law... - It's...
The boys who look old...
(The boys who look old?)
- What? - There are boys who look old.
When I give them money, they buy it for me.
(She's very frustrated.)
If you miss school for 60 days, you get flunked.
Aren't you worried about that?
I don't want to attend school.
I want to go to a school that's related to my dream.
- Do you have a dream? - I want to bake.
Bake. Have you done anything for your dream?
I tried studying for a license.
I cook very often.
Did you know about this?
Your daughter has a dream.
I knew. She said that...
she wants to go to a school that gives her more liberty.
- Liberty? - An alternative school.
- An alternative school. - An alternative school.
There is a trial period of five days,
but she called and cried after three days.
She said that the school doesn't suit her.
I comforted and suggested that she goes back to the regular school,
but she disappeared.
- Did she run away? - Yes, she ran away.
I couldn't reach her for three days.
She ran away and went three days without calling.
Where did you go?
A friend of mine introduced me to a boy.
He is quite handsome.
He suggested that I visit him,
so I went.
Where did he live?
I found that she hadn't logged out of her SNS account.
I saw that...
she wrote about being in Jinju.
- Jinju. - I went to look for her,
- but I couldn't find her. - It's impossible.
I reported to the police...
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I went to the police station when they found her.
When I went, she said,
"You have no right to go through my SNS account."
"It's an invasion of privacy."
(It's an invasion of privacy.)
She said that when you went to find her.
(She didn't even beg for forgiveness.)
To be honest, I thought she would cry...
and apologize.
However, she said I should go back since she isn't going home.
She runs away often.
Your mom sent you to the alternative school...
so that you would learn how to bake.
Was it difficult to adjust?
It was a boarding school,
so the students had to get up at a certain time.
(My goodness)
They had public showers, too.
I didn't like that.
We are surprised.
When you talked about invasion of privacy and such,
did you mean it?
To be honest, it's perfectly normal...
to contact a guy on SNS...
or drink and smoke a little bit,
but she got angry about it. It was annoying.
Did you feel bad?
- Did you feel bad for your mom? - She didn't feel bad at the time.
(She only feels bad for herself.)
Are you mad at your mom?
Are you doing this on purpose to show your defiance?
She trusts my brother, but she doesn't trust me.
- Do you have a brother? - Yes.
- How old is he? - He is in ninth grade.
I see.
(He feels exhausted.)
He is a year older than you.
He goes out late at night...
saying that he will go to the study room.
At the study room,
he posts on SNS.
- Does your brother do that? - Yes.
He doesn't study,
but Mom lets him go out...
and bring friends home.
She doesn't let me do anything...
because she thinks I misbehave with my friends.
She only trusts my brother.
Does he stay out during the night...
or run away from home?
No, he doesn't.
Did he ever get caught smoking?
No, he didn't.
Doesn't that make him trustworthy?
- He goes to school. - Still,
I am honest with Mom.
How does she get along with her brother?
They were close throughout childhood...
- and middle school. - Do they go to the same school?
Yes, they do. However,
my son's friends would go, "Your sister was smoking outside..."
"during class."
His teachers would ask, "Where is your sister?"
"Why didn't she come to school?" He became so stressed out.
He hates it.
My son is in poor health.
Really? What's the matter?
- Children can have panic disorder. - Panic disorder.
- He shouldn't get stressed. - It's a problem.
How does your husband react to this situation?
We only see each other on the weekends.
He has nearly given up.
It's hard for your mom to trust you.
You said you want to be a baker.
However, you didn't like alternative school...
and regular school due to various reasons.
When you become a baker,
you will become employed.
Then you will have to bake from early in the morning...
- and get ready. - You will have to be diligent.
I don't want to work for someone.
I want to open a bakery.
With what money will you open a bakery?
(With what money will you open a bakery?)
With what money will you open a bakery?
You don't have money.
- Let's hear her plans. - Let's hear them.
I will either go to a specialized high school...
or make money by working part-time.
- Then I will open a bakery. - You will save up money.
Even if you open a bakery...
You will save up money by working part-time...
- and open a bakery. - That will take a long time.
To run a bakery,
- you need to be diligent. - You need to be more diligent.
When do you plan to open and close your bakery?
You don't have any specific plans.
You just want to work part-time, open a bakery,
and sell what you baked.
Yes.
What else are you worried about?
She really likes SNS.
- You do? - No, I don't have one. She does.
I misunderstood.
- She likes it. - She likes it.
My daughter likes it.
She makes friends through it.
Then she meets them in real life.
- Does she meet them in real life? - Yes. I tell her,
"It's a dangerous world."
"You could end up dead."
She goes, "It's my life. Don't interfere."
"I will do what I want to do."
She says that.
My goodness.
Do you make friends and meet them often...
through SNS?
Yes. I communicate with them through SNS.
When people like my posts,
I message them.
We exchange information on age and school.
If we are close in distance and age,
we meet up and hang out.
She goes, "Don't meet them. Don't smoke. Don't drink."
She says that.
The thing is,
you haven't drunk for many years.
- Yes, I have. - What?
(What?)
I am sure you have only drunk for a few years...
- at most. - Yes.
Do you know...
what your limit...
and drunk habits are?
- Yes. - How much can you drink?
- A bottle of soju. - A bottle of soju?
- A bottle of soju? - My goodness.
I have drunk two bottles and a half,
but I couldn't drink more after that.
The atmosphere could compel you...
to drink 2 bottles when your limit is 1 bottle.
If you and your friends get drunk,
you might end up doing something that isn't rational.
- But... - That's why your mom is worried.
Haven't you met anyone strange?
- I am sure you have. - I haven't met anyone strange.
I told them to get lost and blocked them on SNS.
You told them to get lost.
What we say...
won't change her mind.
- Her mom... - This time has to pass.
(I want to press the button.)
It's too big a burden for one person.
How is your health?
I got married at the age of 22.
- You got married early. - I got married early.
My husband and I are the same age.
He wanted to be a professional soldier,
but it didn't work out because he hurt his shoulder.
He tried to be an officer, but he hurt his cruciate ligament...
and became a soldier again. That took six years.
- He became a soldier again. - Yes.
She helped me from time to time by working part-time,
but I struggled to do everything for her.
- That's right. - So...
Thinking about the past makes you tear up.
(Thinking about her struggles makes her tear up.)
If it means she can come back to her senses,
I would take pills in front of her.
I asked her, "Would you come back to your senses..."
"if I take pills and die in front of you?"
She didn't even answer.
(Her daughter didn't answer.)
(Desperation drove her to say those words.)
Did you know that your mom...
had these thoughts?
I knew because she always says it...
when we fight.
The thing is,
since my brother is sick,
she takes out her stress on me.
Can you give us some examples?
How does she take out her stress on you?
- She talks to me in an irritated... - She talks to you that way.
and condescending tone.
That annoys me and makes me run away from home.
Well,
I can't help but take a different tone with her.
Both my son and my daughter make their rooms messy.
Then I say, "Tidy up your room or I will scold you."
Even if my son doesn't clean up right away,
he goes, "Okay." At least he pretends to do it.
She goes, "Leave it be. I will clean up." She gets annoyed.
You get annoyed first.
She says she will send people pictures of my room...
if I don't clean up.
I talk to her that way because it's annoying.
The thing is,
you keep finding excuses...
about why you can't help but act this way.
In that case,
will you listen to your mom...
if she talks to you in a kind and gentle tone?
Unless she makes an absurd request, I will listen.
What's an absurd request?
If she asks me to go to school,
- I won't. - Is that an absurd request?
(Did she forget that she is a student?)
I could get homeschooled.
Then I can also learn how to bake...
- and pursue my dream. - Listen.
You say you have a dream.
However, you can't possibly expect your mom to trust that...
you will benefit from homeschooling...
when you don't do anything she asks.
Since she runs a study room,
I thought she could teach me the subjects.
Are you willing to learn if your mom teaches you?
A little bit.
- A little bit? - What was that?
I think it's a tiny bit.
- Your mom... - Tell us this.
What do you want your mom to do?
I want her to stay out of my business.
(What are we going to do with you?)
During weekdays...
That makes no sense.
- She is your mom. - During weekdays,
I can follow a curfew. However, during weekends,
I want her to allow me to stay out for the night.
(Stay out for the night?)
I will call her often...
and check in.
- I also want to have a boyfriend. - You want your mom to allow that.
- Yes. - Do you think...
your mom should still give you allowances?
Should she stay out of your hair, but give you allowances?
- If she stays out of your hair... - I guess I will get part-time jobs.
- Part-time jobs? - But you quit right away.
- You quit after a week. - It wasn't easy, was it?
She's out of control.
- She has no plans. - I mean...
Everything has consequences.
Whether you do something you like or something you don't like,
you always have to put up with something.
You learn to put up with things...
- while you're in school. - Exactly.
That's also what your mom is trying to teach you.
Don't you see how she's looking at you?
What do you think?
- "Mind your own business?" - Yes.
Exactly.
- Yoo A has a point. - She doesn't listen to her mom.
"Who are you to tell me..."
You said you want to stay out at night.
What do you want to do at night?
It feels nice to walk around at night.
Where do you sleep when you stay out?
I sleep at a friend's place when her parents are out of town.
I sometimes sleep on the rooftop too.
- On the rooftop? - On the rooftop?
(Shocked)
(Speechless)
That means you usually sleep on the rooftop.
Your friends' parents can't possibly be out of town every weekend.
On the rooftop?
You want your mom to stop caring about you,
but that's impossible as long as you're family.
Of course. You'd have to disown each other.
To be honest, I want to live alone.
- Even now? - Yes.
(It never seems to end.)
You probably don't get it because you don't have a younger sibling.
Let's say you know a girl in third grade.
If she wants to live alone, what would you say to her?
"Do whatever you want."
- To a third-grader? - Right now, she doesn't get it.
- She doesn't listen. - Imagine she says,
"You've known me since I was in kindergarten."
"Can you send me some money every month?"
What would you say to her?
I'd swear at her.
- "Are you out of your mind?" - Then...
why do you think your mom should give you money every month?
Why?
Because she's your mom?
- Yes. - Why should she give you money?
Because we're family.
But you don't want her to care about you.
When you ran away from home,
why did you come back?
I was caught by the police or Mom.
If you hadn't been caught...
(Could she have not come back home?)
Could you have kept living on your own?
- Yes. - Without any financial support?
Yes.
(Why do you hate home so much?)
What do you want the most from your daughter?
I'm fine with her not going to school.
I just want her not to do any bad things.
- Bad things? - The things...
a teenager isn't supposed to do. Smoking and drinking, for example.
Then I could trust her and let her...
go out whenever she wants. We used to get along very well.
We were like friends. We used to go to a cafe together...
and have a coffee and a hot chocolate.
But we've been at war for the past year.
It's too hard for me.
I want to wake up from this nightmare soon.
We understand.
One of my oldest fans...
brought her 14-year-old daughter to my concert.
Saying her daughter is out of control,
she asked me to say something nice to her daughter.
I just casually told her to study hard,
but it had a huge impact on her.
In the end, she entered a prestigious university.
You never know...
what will make her want to pursue her dreams...
at what point.
Do you like any singer?
I like EXO.
- Which member is your favorite? - Which member is your favorite?
Chan Yeol.
(Chan Yeol of EXO)
She said she'd listen to Chan Yeol.
If Chan Yeol...
I have his phone number.
Like my fan...
- If Chan Yeol... - If Chan Yeol...
He visited my place because he's my sons' fan.
- Did you see it? - Try calling it?
- Did you see it? - Chan Yeol and Baek Hyun...
Yes, Chan Yeol and Baek Hyun came.
- Try calling him. - What?
- Let him talk to her. - Who?
- Chan Yeol. - Come on.
Chan Yeol.
My fan's daughter...
changed after something like this.
Imagine Chan Yeol tells you...
- to get it together and... - To go back to school.
- To go back to school and... - If he asks you...
to stop drinking and smoking,
will you listen?
(Will she listen?)
(She doesn't even listen to her mom.)
(Will she listen to Chan Yeol?)
Yes.
(For the first time)
- Ma'am. - That's the only solution.
What have we been doing? All we needed was Chan Yeol.
Right.
- It's solved! - You should have told us earlier.
Chan Yeol can solve this.
- Give me your phone number. - Yes.
Give me your phone number, and I'll do my best...
- Make him video-call her. - I'll make him video-call her.
I'll make sure your nightmare ends.
Well...
We don't know when he'll call her. He'll call by the end of this year.
So she should stay home all the time.
(We found a solution.)
He'll call your mom, so stay close to her.
- Okay. - Okay.
(Keep your promise.)
Let's start from Kyung Min.
Like I said before,
I understand that you're going through something.
It's understandable.
But I just don't want you to feel proud of it.
You shouldn't.
My mom said this...
at some point.
"You want many things in your life."
"But you can't have everything you want."
I think about it every day even now.
That's all I want to say.
I'm sure you'll change at some point.
I hope that you won't feel ashamed of yourself...
when that happens. I won't push the button.
- Okay. - Ji Ho.
Right now you have your school and family,
and you want to run away from it.
But there will be a time when you don't belong anywhere.
If your dream is to become a baker,
I want you to work hard for it.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Stop!
Do you want to say something to your mom?
(Shy)
She's shy.
I'll try to stop smoking and drinking.
And I'll try not to stay out at night.
Please trust me.
(Trust me this time.)
"Deep Love" won 162 votes.
Let's see how many votes "Terrible Nightmare" won.
(The result)
- Many people pressed the button. - I think it'll win.
(It was a shocking story.)
- Oh, my. - Will it be 163? 173?
- 183. - If it's 163...
- No way. - Will "Terrible Nightmare" win?
173? 163?
- What's the result? - 153.
(153 votes)
This story is called, "What Are You Looking At?"
- "What Are You Looking At?" - "What Are You Looking At?"
Hello. I'm scared of going out.
When people see me on the street, they say,
"Oh, my. Look at her. I can't believe it."
"Hey, kid. How old are you?"
"You're so small. Are you strong enough?"
Me? I'm a 38-year-old woman...
with two kids.
But people look down on me.
- It's because of my height. - Oh, my.
I'm 141cm tall.
She's a bit short.
My husband is like this.
"Kids were staring at me on the street."
"Gosh. Are you talking about that again?"
"Be quiet."
He ignores me instead of comforting me.
Please stop staring at me.
This woman is uncomfortable with people staring at her.
Let's meet her. Please come out!
(Bang Seo Yeon)
(Petite)
(Welcome)
How tall are you exactly?
I'm 141.3cm tall.
When did you last measure it?
When I was pregnant with my second child.
Is it without the baby's weight?
- Oh, wait. - Why are you talking about weight?
Weight, weight, weight...
I...
I was worried about my height, so I got hormone injections.
- As a kid. - I took medicine too.
I even played basketball.
But nothing helped.
You must have been stressed about your height as a kid too.
I was abroad from 4th grade to 11th grade.
When I was abroad, people didn't stare at me much.
- They didn't look down on me. - Right.
So I wasn't very stressed.
Lee Hong Ryul and I once...
mimicked Tarzan on the Japanese subway.
Swinging from handle to handle.
But no one stared at us.
They just think, "There are two weird people."
But if you eat too much, they stare at you.
They're afraid you'll order more.
I don't eat much.
You don't eat much?
"I don't eat much."
I'm sorry.
- Did you just tease me? - No.
(I'll let it pass.)
How was it when you were job hunting?
- I'd be most worried about that. - Right.
Did you have a lot of difficulty?
I majored in hotel management at college.
- I see. - I had a job interview...
for a front desk position.
But the front desk is pretty high, so...
- It requires certain height... - There are requirements.
I didn't get the job. I couldn't get a job in that field.
So I changed my career path...
to the bakery and cafe.
But when I went for a job interview,
I was told that I'm too short...
to work at a bakery...
as it's hard work. People looked down on me.
One day, I went to a restaurant with my family.
A girl, who seemed to be an elementary school student,
saw me and kept following me around.
She compared her height to me like this.
She compared her height to me.
- Gosh. - She giggled while doing that.
- My husband was there... - What did you say to that girl?
I got so angry, so I said, "What are you staring at?"
Then she started crying.
Her mom came up to me...
and complained that I made her kid cry, so we argued.
- Did the girl's mom not stop her? - No, she didn't.
She didn't stop her child.
(It was her fault that she didn't stop her daughter.)
- They look at me. - You mean, kids?
Yes. I wouldn't mind if they just look at me and leave,
but they always turn around to see me again and laugh at me.
They giggle and whisper to each other.
- Did it happen a lot? - Yes.
It happens every day when I walk my child to the kindergarten.
When I was walking with my daughter while holding her hand,
someone said while looking at her, "I feel bad for the girl."
"How tall will she be when she grows up?"
(Why would they do that to a child?)
You said your husband doesn't comfort you at all.
When I say that I'm upset because a lot of little kids...
stare at me on the streets,
he always says, "Don't mind them. Just let it go."
Like this.
- Did he say... - He never comforts me.
He doesn't understand me.
When I went to the restaurant,
he said, "Don't make it a problem, and let it slide."
"Be quiet. Just let it slide."
That's what he said.
(He was supposed to get angry too.)
Have you ever wanted...
your husband to step up...
- and get angry to people like them, - Of course.
- I really wanted him to do so. - so they would never...
- Do you want him to do so? - Yes, I do.
Let's meet her husband and hear him out first.
Where are you? Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
(Who is the husband who doesn't understand her pain?)
Do you also notice...
that people stare at your wife?
Yes. Especially little kids stare at her. I've noticed that.
Since I notice that a lot,
I'm sure she notices it much more often.
Your wife gets upset...
- when it happens, right? - Yes.
Why don't you complain to the people who stare at her?
I tend to avoid causing trouble.
I think it could be harmful for her.
That's one of the reasons.
Do you remember what happened that day?
Yes, I remember that,
but actually, I saw what happened from the moment she yelled.
(He saw her from the moment she got angry.)
- You only saw her yelling. - Yes.
- I didn't see what happened before. - What a shame.
What if you had seen what the girl did...
before your wife got angry?
If that was the case, I wouldn't have let it slide.
- He wouldn't have. - Of course.
He said he didn't see what she did. He only saw you yelling.
Even so, I wish he had sided with me...
when I was arguing with her mother.
(Right. She must've been upset.)
First of all, I didn't tell her to stop it and leave...
because I didn't want to side with her.
- It wasn't worth fighting with her. - That's right.
- That's what I thought. - I understand.
I see what you mean.
- It's pointless to get her apology. - This is... Listen to me.
- That's right. - Men can understand him,
but women don't. Don't you agree?
I would be upset if it was my husband.
Me too. If it was my husband.
- I would want him to take my side. - But it can make it worse.
Would you want your husband to have a fist fight...
- and end up being arrested? - No.
I think that would be better.
(Getting arrested should be avoided.)
As her husband, do you think...
that she reacts too sensitively?
Or do you think people make her feel that way?
It doesn't happen as often as my wife thinks.
- Is that so? - Yes.
That's not true. Or else, I wouldn't be here.
- Exactly. You feel that every day. - Of course.
I wish she could ignore when people stare at her.
I think she should become more confident.
I understand...
that you don't want to cause trouble,
but you should let her know that you have her back,
- so she can rely on you. - She needs his comfort.
But you only tell her to forget it.
It may have made her feel disappointed...
- and belittled. - That's right.
How did you think of her when you met her for the first time?
When we first met, my wife didn't seem to care...
so much about her height.
Also, most short women...
- wear high heels, right? - Yes.
But my wife never wears high heels...
because it's uncomfortable.
- I see. - She must've seemed confident.
She looked confident.
That turned her height into her strength.
She looked like a fairy to me.
Her height didn't matter when you fell in love with her?
- Not at all. - I see.
That's great.
(She looked pretty to him despite her height.)
She said it was hard for her to get a job because of her height.
What do you think about that?
Since she lived in a foreign country for a long time when she was a kid,
I think she has a different point of view from Koreans'.
That made it hard for her to fit in at work.
Have you ever felt more upset because of your husband?
Yes, I have. It would be nice if he can understand me...
and comfort me.
But when we have a fight,
he says offensive things to me.
"That's why you can't do well."
"You have a weird personality and are like a psychopath."
(Did he really say that?)
"You got fired because you couldn't fit in at work."
He says things like that to me.
- I lost my self-esteem. - He said harsh things to you.
I'm upset and distressed.
It'd be nice if he comforts you when you had a fight with others.
"Honey, they're not even humans."
- But he is not like that. - He's not like that.
- He rather criticizes you, right? - Yes.
Just as my wife, when we fight,
we become childish just like other couples.
I say things I don't mean.
In fact, my wife...
Maybe because she feels inferior and victimized.
(It's because my wife has victim mentality.)
She jumps to conclusions and misunderstands others.
When I say something against her opinion,
she tends to get angry.
That's why...
We were making soy bean paste stew.
I cut pumpkin slices in half.
I sliced it first...
- In a half moon shape. - Yes.
- I cut it in half. - Instead of julienning it.
That's right.
My wife got mad at me because I didn't cut it in four pieces.
She didn't think we had different ways of cooking.
- She thought I belittled her. - "Are you looking down on me?"
- She thought you belittled her? - Yes.
I wasn't upset because of that.
- What made you upset? - Did you have pent up anger?
I tend to speak bluntly.
- "It's better to cut it like this." - In a commanding tone?
So my husband said,
"Don't tell me what to do. I'll cut it as I want."
(Her husband burst with anger.)
Does she get rough when she's angry?
She tends to. She swears at me too.
- She swears? - Yes.
- She swears? - She didn't swear at you...
because you cut the pumpkin in half, did she?
Is it an appropriate word to say on a TV show?
She called me a...
That's a little ambiguous.
(My goodness)
He just said it.
All he did was cut the pumpkin in half.
Do you think you and your husband fight often?
Yes, we do.
We have difficulty having a serious conversation.
- Pardon? - We can't understand each other.
That's a problem.
We really don't understand what each other says.
Three years ago, we lived with my mother-in-law...
in a semi-basement flat because of a financial difficulty.
Since my mother-in-law and I had different lifestyles,
we had a serious conflict.
My husband tried to mediate between us,
but I was so stressed out because of our financial problems...
and because I couldn't understand my mother-in-law.
So we started fighting...
and ended up throwing things at each other.
I called the police in the end as I ran out of energy.
(She called the police?)
- You even went to the police? - Because of a couple's fight.
How did that happen?
In fact, I am short-tempered as well.
- Both of you are. - Yes.
My husband is good with words.
My body reacts before my mind...
out of spite.
Have you not had any serious conversation recently?
- It must be hard to do so. - That's right.
- Is it absolutely impossible? - We just make jokes.
We just talk about celebrities while watching TV.
Have you talked about me too?
Yes.
Do you ever...
express your love to your wife?
She doesn't like it.
- What? - She doesn't like it.
- She doesn't? - Recently,
she gave birth to our second child.
It must be hard for her to keep her head straight.
You can say, "Thank you for all your hard work."
- "You must be tired." - He...
- He says things like that. - Does he?
- But he doesn't mean it. - Oh, I see.
How does he sound? Show us.
He doesn't mean it?
I usually say, "Thank you for your hard work."
"Thank you for your hard work."
Isn't that how Lee Su Geun speaks?
I think he's shy.
"Hello. I'm Lee Su Geun."
- You sound just like Su Geun. - We should ask her.
How should he speak to make it sound more authentic?
"Honey, you worked so hard today."
But he says, "Thank you for your hard work."
- She thinks... - Then...
- he speaks halfheartedly. - do you...
say nice things to your husband when he comes home?
Since he speaks like that,
- I don't want to do that either. - But you could have...
said nice things to him first.
"Honey, you must be tired."
- I do say things like that. - How do you feel...
when she says things like that?
- It doesn't sound authentic? - That's right.
- When they speak to each other... - They're the same.
- "Welcome home." - "You must be tired."
- "Thank you for your hard work." - "How was your day?"
- "You must be tired." - "I'm fine."
- "Get some rest." - Their conversation is unemotional.
It's not that your husband doesn't show his feelings.
- It's just he doesn't... - He gets touchy-feely instead.
- He never gets touchy-feely? - He cuddles.
- Then you should be happy. - Then...
But I prefer to hear nice things...
- She prefers warm words. - Do you?
I understand.
- Does he sulk often? - Yes, he sulks easily.
Has he ever run away from home?
Yes, he has.
- He ran away from home? - Yes.
While we were talking on the phone, he said, "Do whatever you want."
He hung up the phone and didn't come home for a week after that.
- Really? - He didn't come home.
In fact, I slept at home on the first day.
I went home on the second day as well, but she didn't know.
On the third day, she changed the door lock code.
- He didn't run away from home. - You went home, but...
He went home for two days in the week.
I ran away from home after two days.
Where did you stay?
I stayed at my friend's place on the first day,
and then I went to my mother's.
However,
the reason you sent us your story...
(Laughing)
- It can be confusing. - I'm a little confused.
Do you want to talk about your husband?
Or is it how people stare at you when you go outside?
I'm stressed because of how people stare at me,
- Her husband caused her distress. - and I also need his empathy.
Can you give us an example?
- I want him to say that people... - To criticize the mean people?
- You want him to side with you. - "What they did was wrong."
"What they did was wrong. Cheer up."
"Try to be more confident." I need warm words like this.
Is that all? She's not asking too much.
Can't you do that for her?
I do try to comfort her.
It's not that I don't even try. However, just as I said,
I don't care how short she is.
- I love her no matter what. - Right.
That's why I told her to ignore the mean people.
That's why your wife gets upset.
You should criticize them first.
How about this? When I watch TV with my wife at home,
my wife asks about a pretty woman. "Honey, what do you think of her?"
The moment she asks about the woman, I say,
"Gosh. She looks awful in person."
I react like this automatically.
(You heard him, right?)
"Don't worry about what people like them think."
"You have me. Don't worry."
It sounds like you care about your wife.
"Don't worry about them. Why would you care about them?"
This sounds like you're criticizing your wife.
I think the small difference in your tone...
may have hurt your wife's feelings.
That's why she doesn't know how you really feel.
How often do you two talk to each other?
I'm not sure.
- I don't think we talk... - About five minutes a day.
- a lot to each other. - Five minutes?
I think it's one hour in total.
Including the time you two fight?
1 hour in 1 day? 1 hour?
I think it's more serious. He went to a wedding...
without even telling me.
- Alone? - Yes.
He could've asked me to go with him or told me...
he would go there alone.
- He didn't tell her. - Did he go there by himself?
- That's bad. - It all made her wonder...
if he doesn't want to meet others with her because of her height...
and if he looks down on her.
- Did you feel that way... - That's right.
- just as Dong Yeob said? - I think I did.
- It seems she feels that way. - Because I'm too short...
It's not true that I went to the wedding by myself.
(What is he talking about?)
- Actually... - Your friend's wedding.
(What is he talking about?)
Your wife thinks you went to the wedding.
I know, but I couldn't go there.
I told her that I didn't go.
- I told her... - I didn't hear that.
(He says he told her, but she says he didn't.)
2 friends got married including the one I've known for 30 years.
But I couldn't attend any of their weddings...
because my wife didn't want me to.
It's not that I didn't want him to go.
I was angry because he didn't tell me.
- Why... - What does that mean?
Why do you think she didn't want you to go there?
I don't know. I just can tell.
- It's just your thought? - Yes.
Both of you jump to conclusions too much.
They're too stubborn.
(Frustrated)
(They're too stubborn to understand each other.)
Have you two made any effort to improve your relationship?
There are a lot of couple therapists these days.
I'd like to take couple therapy,
but it costs a lot. We're not wealthy enough for it.
Since you said you two can't understand what each other says,
- why don't you two say... - Right.
- what you want to say? - That's a good idea.
I want you to comfort and empathize with me...
before you say what you want to say to me.
And I hope we can have a serious conversation...
- A long conversation. - without ending up fighting.
Please answer her.
Even though you're short and have low self-esteem,
I liked you just as you are,
and now, I'm beside you.
- I can't express my love always, - Right.
but don't forget that I'm always on your side.
(May every day be like today.)
What do you do for a living?
I work at an herbal clinic.
I do work related to herbal medicine.
I work from 9am to 6pm.
From Wednesday to Friday, I work at a restaurant from 6:30pm to 11:30pm.
- Gosh. He's working hard. - My goodness.
(He's amazing.)
- You have two jobs. - Yes.
- Personally, I think... - He must be so busy.
you two should spend some time alone as soon as possible.
I really think you should.
It looks like he's working hard...
as a father of two children.
- Yes. - Is he not?
But it's been only 2 months since he started working 2 jobs.
- Anyway, it's a good thing. - Of course.
It feels like you don't take your husband's side...
- but are depreciating him. - You want him to side with you.
I think the audience members are confused.
- Of course... - You should be on his side too.
I'll speak badly of your husband.
I mean, you guys have two children.
You have to look after them. Right? Working two jobs is not enough.
Shouldn't he work three jobs and sleep one hour a day?
Shouldn't he work harder? He should take responsibility.
He uses being busy as an excuse.
He makes...
- soy bean paste stew for dinner... - Even I'm upset when I'm not her.
I mean... Listen to me.
Say something good about him.
- You think he's working hard too. - He deserves a compliment.
Tell him that.
Thank you for working two jobs...
for me and our daughters and doing dishes, cooking,
and other house chores when you must be tired...
- He's a good husband. - from working all day long.
Honey, I love you.
(Honey, I love you.)
(Heartwarming)
I know you're working hard,
but would you choose to earn money or raise the kids at home?
- I would choose to work outside. - That's what I thought.
- You know how hard it is, right? - Yes.
If you have 2 children, it's the same as working 2 jobs.
- 3 kids equal 3 jobs. - Right.
So am I wasting my time because I have no kids?
(Am I wasting my time?)
No. You have your job.
Let's start with Hwi Jae.
I hope you two will spend some time alone.
I won't vote for you.
Okay. You don't think it's a worry.
I think you two can share greater love...
if you communicate with each other.
So I won't vote for you either.
I hope you two will become happier soon.
- Ji Ho. - They care a lot about each other,
so I don't think it's a worry.
Since they're not trying when they can fix the problem,
I don't think it's a worry.
Her worries and stress about her height...
is tangled with the dissatisfaction with her husband.
It became a complicated matter.
I think it's a difficult problem to solve.
You think it's a worry.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- My goodness. - How adorable.
They look like angels.
- She looks like a doll. Goodness. - Oh, my.
- They're so cute. - Exactly.
- They're so cute. - She raised them well.
- My goodness. - They're adorable.
Don't hit her head. She won't grow tall.
(Laughing)
Do you like your mom the most? Or do you like... Who do you like?
- What? - What are you saying?
- That's not what I intended. - What kind of question is that?
Say something you want to say to your mom.
- I love you. - Good.
- Dad, I love you. - She's so cute.
Eun Jin, which class are you in?
- I'm in Love Class. - "Love Class".
Do you have many friends in Love Class?
- Yes. - Who is your best friend?
- Ji An. - I see. How cute.
He's really good with children.
I'm Seo Eon and Seo Jun's dad.
They're the same age as you.
"All right."
- "So?" - "What do you want me to say?"
Can you sing "Cheer up, Dad"?
Okay. 1, 2, 3, 4.
(I heard the door bell ringing, so I opened the door)
(He smiles like a proud dad.)
(She looks like a kindergarten teacher.)
And I saw my dad
(Could she be a mom?)
Standing in front of the door
- Did you have a long day? - The climax begins.
(Dad, cheer up)
(We're here for you)
(She's cute.)
She's good.
(Patting her dad)
Eun Jin.
- She's cute. - Eun Jin.
Can you sing "Cheer up, Mom" as well?
- There's no such song. - She's firm.
Kids don't understand what it means.
- They can't change the lyrics. - Your daughter...
- is inflexible. - You see...
- She's only six. - Right.
Now, please show us the result of "What Are You Looking At?"
(The result)
The current winner got 162 votes.
- The last digit is 3. - Is it over 100 votes?
I saw some of them pressing their buzzers.
("What Are You Looking At?")
They don't think it's a worry.
(She got 33 votes.)
As a result, "Deep Love" is this week's winner.
The winner receives a prize money. Congratulations.
Until the day we are all worry-free.
Hello will continue to counsel you.
- Thank you! - Thank you!